Am I stressed or can I take stress?

Recently I did a personality test given to mi by a friend of mine... Did the test and found some interesting results.

1. I am confused
2. I am stressed
3. I am less stressed in my actual self

Okie...very much I do not want to believe it, but I always believe that there is always a reason behind it... YOu don't just throw a genius a task to set up this whole personality test overnite, am I right? The genius (so called genius) must had spent thousands and zillions of hours gathering data, speak to people, compile info and come out with this DISC test....

Once again, I believe in myself. At the very same time, I believe that this tool, or indicator, or test, or quiz or personality test is there for a reason. So the moral of the story - I am stressed.

Stress, stresses, stressed!

Hu.....I can take a different approach by using my usual technique. When the situation is stressful - I like to take a deep breath and pull myself out so that I can see the whole pic. When the left hand man is stressed, the right hand man takes a step back and look at the whole pic. When I do not know what is happening, I take a step back; when I feel that everything is too much, I take one step back....

Okie, it seems that on the inside, I am not stressed. Now how to show other people that I am not stressed?

3 types of people exists;
A. You are totally COOL.
Even when the world falls under you, you still can treat it like a blanket and cover yourself, keeping yourself warm to your advantage. You are "there", armed with your life experience and natural skills, you are always there to save the day.

B. "You are totally wayang" Man
These are the type of people who are totally amazing in turning "black into white". Look good, inside cannot make it never mind, live to tell another day. The ability to distort the face so gilak gilak(so good) that you are always there to save the day....Impressive

C. "Got a bit of stuff on the inside, but not showing it on the outside" MAN
Inside can take the amount of tumbling, but the facial, vocal and body language depicts otherwise. You may have the ability, but you do not know how to utilise it effectively...."Save the cheerleader, save the world, but how?" I know the solution is somewhere inside my heart, but I do not know how to use this special power of mine....

Eer...think I am starting to write rubbish, better take one step back and look at the big pic.

Let us recall the earlier observation of mine.
1. I am confused - Tink this is mainly because of the fact that sometimes, I can be so Mr Nice guy to my friends. But sometimes, I can be so Mr Nasty guy to Min, my mum, my bro etc...Given a choice, I will still work towards the personality of the former. Even though the fact that Mr Nice guy may be the loser at times, I am sure that with his preservenance, he will make it and make the world a better place...

2. I am stressed - I am not as good as Jaslin Husband Dave in clinching the Golden Horse best actor award. But in terms of stress, I will continue to build up the mental capacity to do so...like where to eat, who to eat, what to do in off days...hahahaha!

3. I am less stressed in my actual self - Which I feel is good as if I am stressed when I am facing my inner self, I cannot imagine myself working in the outside world.

To conveniently summarise and the perfect solution,


I need to go for my quarterly getaway soon and most importantly, I am what I am....

:)
Aliying

The "Classic"

9 years ago














yesterday, when Min and myself went for dinner

Still the same place, still the same girl - priceless

Coined this as classic. First learned this when I was looking at some of Min's eldest sis's melbourne photos years ago. They had a particular photo posing in front of the melbourne train. So when Min and I visited Melbourne, we posed exactly the same way as they had in the photo. Thought it was quite cool to do that... At least been there done that. Some things had changed, while some things had not.

No more China Jump(that was where we had dinner), but we had the sun and moon jap restaurant....Food there is good, snatching off a 30percent discount on the last day celebration of the restaurant's second anniversary...Sweet!

:)
aliying

YEsterday was sweet

Seldom had a chance to dine out on a monday night, thanks to Min...Had a good pre dinner drink at Father Flanagan's, Chijmes, followed by dinner at Sun and Moon Japanese restaurant.

Later met up with Ah-Frey and Mingyun for a not so crowded gathering at Balaclava..That is right, post dinner drinks are indeed necessary....empty seats on the left, empty seats on the right. Had never felt better b4. Not saying that the place is absolute empty, but crowded enough just to chill....

Got a fantastic gift from Min yesterday, courtesy of Vinson CHua...

THank you all!
:)
aliying

Aliying shall bend time and space to back date the ANNUAL Wala with Eizac

busy drinking













3 drinkers

What a night!! (Actually, a lot of nights had passed since the event occured)The wondering wanderer is back to "lah lah" for 5 days and Ah frey, Min, myself, Kapor and mingyun had the luxury to have a drink at our Annual Wala session! What a drink it had been... lots of catching up and updates on how everyone is doing....

I know that I said that I will drink in moderation and practicality, but when such a dear friend came back, Aliying had to do what Aliying had to do....Beer, long island tea, burbon and the ultimate combination came - Waterfall and flaming combo! Damn!!!!! Fortunately, I had survived...No wasted at all, no wasted at all...Contrary to that, Eizac and Jeffrey had a good time spinning their heads around, teleporting to and fro Sydney...hahaha!

All in all, Eizac is still doing well in Sydney and I must say that it is no easy survival skill in a foreign land...Kudos to him for being the not the usual singaporean representing us out in the whole world out there....

Till the next Wala!!! Eer, I think I am going to Wala next Thu with my JC ODAC guys,....u know?

:)
Aliying

The pursuit of happyiness instead of happiness...

I was given feedback that the blog of mine is not being updated as much as it should be....Man, you cannot blame mi the moderator, as during the Chinese New Year, when you swallow nearly 1.6kg of bak kwa, you really feel shiok man!

Way to go jaden! This boy is here to stay in Hollywood! Watched the pursuit of "happyiness" with Ah frey and coy and found it to be not a too bad show to watch and give myself a five cent ten cent worth of thought after the show. In my own way, what happyiness am I really pursuing in life? Is it a good career? Is it good health? Is it a good spouse? (Oops this one I got alreadi cos Min had been by my side all these years and many good years to come...)

I personally feel that happyiness is a bit everything...Not super rich till I can drive ferrari, but rich enough to buy my drinking buddies a round of drinks at wala wala....Not super healthy that I must eat heathly organic food everything, but healthy enough to live beyond 60 and still eat my roasted duck and bak kwa. Also one spouse is enough to last for a lifetime for mi alreadi...

ThIS is my pursuit of happyiness...yourself????

P.S - I know that the correct spelling is happiness... ;)

:)

aliying

Happy CNY!!

Man it just feels so good to be online again...
My notebook is finally fixed up...at the expense of replacing the motherboard....no regrets over it as the hardware seems to be stable...so far so good....

still a bit fatigued from the nite flight that i did yesterday..will be reconsolidating the events and post it on the blog the big way!

A brand new week, a brand new start to our piggy year!

:)
aliying

My notebook had made a decision

Using Min notebook to type this entry...a long time since an entry had been made..

A decision had been made for the notebook - to go for repair...$$down the drain and hope that it will work. Felt it is a pity not to repair it as it is still in good condition for general work, surfing and watching anime... Also to increase it selling price...

Eizac aka wondering wanderer is back in Singapore and believe mi, what a nite it had been for all of us at Wala Wala! Once the photos are in, we will re-enact the Wala Wala experience!

:)
aliying

MY Fujitsu notebook had broken down

My 5 year fujitsu notebook had finally broken down!
I got two options
1. change my motherboard
2. buy a new notebook at the upcoming computer fair...

:(
aliying

noticed and observed

noticed that alot of blogs are kind of slowing down in terms of the entry...mine is no exception....

Wonder if it is because there is no time to blog?
Or is it becuase he or she had a new project to work upon, hence putting the typing of the entry a lower priority?
Or is it because I shack cannot think alreadi?
Or is it because people dare of come out of the "shell" of the blog and meet up face to face?
Or, lastly, is it because we are still strolling ourselves into the new year?

My thoughts, my feelings and my aliying blog..

:)
aliying

Long chat with Jeffrey

just finished a long chat with Jeffrey....anything from girls to investment to long term goals...

also, nice kopitiam beer!

:)
aliying

Efung is safe and sound in NY

Just got the email from Stefen that he is safe and sound in NY....

His journey continues from there on....

As for myself in Sillypore, things are gearing up...just recovered from a cold...not the best of the feeling though...

Tried to develop photo, my portable hard disk cannot work; tried to repair my watch but missed the exit from PIE. I sense a bit of disappointment in my side...However, I took a deep breath and say - there is no need to feel disappointed, there is always the next time... I shall grow from this experience and move on like a man!

Indeed, a man, I am

:)
aliying

Enjoying the few days of leave again....

Back from my flight...taking this time to enjoy the few days of leave...

Esmond tay wedding, baby Jen first year birthday celebration, new school, new reporting officer, new things to look forward for this year, sending off Efung bound for NY....

Too many things to clear from last year...better work efficiently!

:)
Aliying

Merry Christmas to all!

Wishing you all a very merry Christmas and a happy new year!

mi and min and nicole

No.No..No...

No, we am still not on my honeymoon... but we are going in exactly 36hours time....

Went back to work for a while...not too bad with hong kong and Osaka..Now here I am, standing in front of the TV watching "Hitch", preparing myself to go to the honeymoon with Min.

I learned that the history of honeymoon is for the couple to sneak off silently in the middle of the reception to go for the honeymoon. I thought that was really tiring to do so...but it sounds cool though...

that is all for now...post wedding celebration begins!

:)
aliying

Post wedding thoughts

Our wedding is done!

So much thoughts, so much excitement, so much fun and laughter, so much to look forward to, so much to learn from, experience, been there done that!

THat is just so much things, but I will keep it...detailed!

Thanks to my parents for bringing mi up in a stress free environment, giving mi a lot of flexibiltiy to do what I want to achieve

Thanks to huimin parent for giving mi the once in a lifetime opportunity to have Huimin by my side

Thanks to Hendrick, Diana, nicole, glendon, Binghui, Huili, Leia, Kok Heng, Huizhen, Carisse for guiding mi throughout my foundative years with Huimin. I thank you all for giving mi the permission to take care of Huimin.

Thanks to Yao, chunhui, YS and Ah Kim for being part of my Chong family.

Thanks to Jeffrey aka Ah frey for being aliying's co-ordinator, advisor, consultant, drink master, banquet co-ordinator, wine controller, time keeper, drink master, everything! He had been my soulmate for a very very long time, over the never ending kopitiam beer, in Nepal doing the annapurna circuit, QM in JJC ODAC, shacking it out in Tahan together, drinking merrily at wala wala, balaclava, wine bar, sam bar, more kopitiam beer, "five token self made"king in mahjong, watching anime, running and more drinking...
Thank you for sitting down with mi listening to mi ali - that really helps alot, my dear friend.

Thanks to Maggie for being Huimin co-ordinator, organise tekan session, consultant, making sure Huimin is the prettiest, watching her every sec throughout the whole wedding, sharing of pointers

Thanks to Dave for being the muscle man in the brother clan..tough time don't last, tough man do...I will always remember that!

Thanks to Lip Chee for styling his hair just for our wedding..believe mi or not, you look damn good man! nearly swept mi off the ground...You are the person that I knew for the longest since sec 1 and we had not looked back since...I am very very happy that we got hitched together to Maggie and Huimin respectively..

Thanks to Mark for all the notes he had passed down to us with regards to his wedding, appointment list, schedule for that day, anticipating problems, table arrangement formula, things to bring..All these can be bought at a special price of 45USD. Contact aliying for more details if you want to make sure that your wedding is a success..Mine is!

Thanks to Efung for making such an "everest" effort to make it for the wedding...one photoshoot inbetn the tea ceremony and dinner and the standard chartered marthon photo shoot the next day is really a hell of a schedule for you! Not forgetting your wonderful shoot given to us as a gift...thanks!

Thanks to Elsen who make sure that his helping hand is always there for mi. It was really nice to have you by our side :) Always watching over mi, never to slightest wanting to claim any credit...You are the MAN!

Thanks to weimin for enduring my demanding request for the audio visuals....Nearly maxed you out on this highly demanding job!! Both min and myself really enjoyed the montages and the music is fantastic!

Thanks to Julian for my last min request for his help...I will always remember how we go through Tahan together, and I always believe that you still cook the nicest rice when we are camping..Tahan clan forever! Rock with leeches, baby!

Thanks to you, my friend -Colin Mark Holmes, for making such an amazing effort to fly in to Singapore from New Delhi. Your very presence makes the whole wedding unique and interesting.. Your megawatt smile never fails to attract the opposite sex to come over to you naturally. I really appreciate the gift of Ganesh and the multi currency ang pao..Thank you once again, my friend.


Next, to the girls..

Thank you, Jaslin for being so onz since I first met you in JJC ODAC..You are very fierce at the tekan session...BUT I CAN TAKE IT!!!

Thanks to Pei Yin for taking time off to be Huimin sister...Though look blur, you are always there to pick up something that all of us miss...This is what I call "looking at the big pic"!

Thanks to Judy for your "horny" song that I am obliged to dance with....It is really nice, fun and enjoyable to have the element of the "good church girl" for our wedding!!! More Long island tea, my friend!!!

Thanks to Mingyun, aka "Miss Chong", for being such a close friend to aliying and Huimin. YOU!!! I say YOU!!! really had a good time tekaning mi ha!! All the extra large tomato, extra sour lime juice, wasabi with chilli padi and raw bittergourd(I can take on this easily!!!) must be your idea lor....the 1 bird, 1 bird 1 bird +++ mahjong combination, the matriculation no, etc...must be your IDEA!!! YOu!!!!
However, despite all these tekan session, my brothers and I really enjoyed it very much!! All the laughter, all the fun, all the enjoyment and all the rowdiness makes my wedding a very much memorable affair for many years to come.

Next...bear with mi...

Thanks to all our friends, relative and colleagues for taking time off to grace the ceremony.

Like to thanks also those who cannot make it for our wedding, but still, in one way or another, offer gifts and tokens to us - Wayne, Chin leong, Chia Sheng, Eizac, Ting Ting, April, Hanrong, Youtian, Coral, David Teng, Daniel, Fuhan, Daniel Tan, Betty Boo, Gina, We really appreciate that! Thanks

Thanks to all those people who had made this wedding possible - esp Sheena from Grand Copthorne Waterfront hotel, Hisham the floor manager, Stefii florist, my fav florist Eunice, Connie, Timothy, Alex and ah Long the actual day photographer, Ah ju auntie aka matchmaker, the mouse of the day Junda, Sandy(Golden Horse award), Sam and Linda, weiquong for the make up, Shan (Engagement party and outdoor shoot Make up artist), Eugene from Chris Ling and many more...Thanks!

So many people to thanks, so little time...Time for mi not to be too ali alreadi....

Have a good evening, ladies and gentlemen

:)
aliying
T-4days to honeymoon

P.S : photos will be put up shortly due WIP...stay tuned

My wedding - 02 dec 2006

Good morning, my brothers and sisters! Rise and shine! TOday is my wedding day!

:)
aliying

t-2 DAYS to the wedding....

Mine oh mine...T-2 days to weddings...today kind of a breather cos just stepped out of the black box...feeling good, listening over and over again the songs to be played on the act wedding itself...

Feeling: relaxed
Thinking : that i had one more free hour to go b4 I hit on the table allocation
smelling: the good old sunshine...today is one of the rare day that it does not rain in the afternoon
seeing : my LCD screen...if not how to type blog....

T-2 days to the wedding
:)
aliying

The boy just wan all the ang paos!

Glendon boy : "I wan I wan ang pao!!!"


Uncle Aliying : "okie okie..I had all these prepared for you alreadi"










:)
aliying
T- 4 days to the wedding of alimin and aliying

AH Frey

Ah frey is back! And when he is back, he is winning mahjong money again!


Still, but still, welcome back!

:)
aliying